Comments on: How To Reach Your Potential – Break Down Your Walls http://www.amiracleaday.com/articles/2008/01/16/how-to-reach-your-potential-break-down-your-walls/ Helping To Find Everyday Miracles Tue, 07 Feb 2012 10:23:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: kat http://www.amiracleaday.com/articles/2008/01/16/how-to-reach-your-potential-break-down-your-walls/#comment-1078 kat Sat, 27 Aug 2011 17:44:11 +0000 yes definitely thank you for your help. yes definitely thank you for your help.

]]> By: Jason http://www.amiracleaday.com/articles/2008/01/16/how-to-reach-your-potential-break-down-your-walls/#comment-1075 Jason Thu, 25 Aug 2011 21:43:58 +0000 Generally the best way to break them down is to take a few minutes of quiet time to figure out WHY you have that wall... all walls have a cause. Once you know why you have the wall, you can address the cause. If, for example, you have a wall to keep people out, you may look at it, really look at it, and see that it's there because someone that you were very close to when you were young hurt you (intentionally, unintentionally, or even something like dying). That can cause you to have a fear that anyone you let that close will hurt you, which causes you to build a wall to keep that from happening. All walls, honestly, boil down to being afraid that something will happen. The specific wall is determined by what that thing is, and why you are afraid it will happen. Walls are not something that simply vanishes overnight, usually, although it is possible to have a breakthrough where that happens. It usually takes weeks, months, even years to completely destroy a major wall. Does that help? Generally the best way to break them down is to take a few minutes of quiet time to figure out WHY you have that wall… all walls have a cause. Once you know why you have the wall, you can address the cause. If, for example, you have a wall to keep people out, you may look at it, really look at it, and see that it’s there because someone that you were very close to when you were young hurt you (intentionally, unintentionally, or even something like dying). That can cause you to have a fear that anyone you let that close will hurt you, which causes you to build a wall to keep that from happening.

All walls, honestly, boil down to being afraid that something will happen. The specific wall is determined by what that thing is, and why you are afraid it will happen.

Walls are not something that simply vanishes overnight, usually, although it is possible to have a breakthrough where that happens. It usually takes weeks, months, even years to completely destroy a major wall.

Does that help?

]]> By: Kat http://www.amiracleaday.com/articles/2008/01/16/how-to-reach-your-potential-break-down-your-walls/#comment-1074 Kat Thu, 25 Aug 2011 21:31:30 +0000 What I dont understand is how to break these walls. I have social anxiety and freeze up around new people or when im publicly speaking. How do I let other people in and ease my stage fright? Do I mentally visualize the walls slowly being torn down? What I dont understand is how to break these walls. I have social anxiety and freeze up around new people or when im publicly speaking. How do I let other people in and ease my stage fright? Do I mentally visualize the walls slowly being torn down?

]]> By: Jason http://www.amiracleaday.com/articles/2008/01/16/how-to-reach-your-potential-break-down-your-walls/#comment-1069 Jason Mon, 22 Aug 2011 14:12:11 +0000 I sent you an email with some examples... essentially our walls are the limits that we put on ourselves, where we don't want to go because it's too painful, or too potentially painful. It might be for fear of rejection (or from past actual rejections), it might be from fear of "not being good enough", or it may be from actual pain... someone close to you that you lost, maybe, or if you happened to be adopted and feel the pain of feeling like you were abandoned by your birth parents. Walls can cause you to turn away from things that aren't even directly involved in the origin of the pain, like having lost someone close keeping you from allowing anyone else close, or having a painful experience with your parents keeping you from wanting to be a parent. It's really hard to break down your walls, as they often cause you discomfort for even thinking of their existence, let alone actually confronting them and their source. The bigger the wall, the more discomfort, but the more you gain for breaking it down. I sent you an email with some examples… essentially our walls are the limits that we put on ourselves, where we don’t want to go because it’s too painful, or too potentially painful. It might be for fear of rejection (or from past actual rejections), it might be from fear of “not being good enough”, or it may be from actual pain… someone close to you that you lost, maybe, or if you happened to be adopted and feel the pain of feeling like you were abandoned by your birth parents. Walls can cause you to turn away from things that aren’t even directly involved in the origin of the pain, like having lost someone close keeping you from allowing anyone else close, or having a painful experience with your parents keeping you from wanting to be a parent.

It’s really hard to break down your walls, as they often cause you discomfort for even thinking of their existence, let alone actually confronting them and their source. The bigger the wall, the more discomfort, but the more you gain for breaking it down.

]]> By: Nuno http://www.amiracleaday.com/articles/2008/01/16/how-to-reach-your-potential-break-down-your-walls/#comment-1068 Nuno Mon, 22 Aug 2011 10:22:03 +0000 Give us some examples. Or give me examples. Tell us about these walls. I've been told time and time again that I'm tense. That I look tense. And when you talk about walls it confuses me. I see a wall or two at most. Maybe I'm not only tense, but dense. Could you please reply to me? Give us some examples. Or give me examples. Tell us about these walls. I’ve been told time and time again that I’m tense. That I look tense. And when you talk about walls it confuses me. I see a wall or two at most. Maybe I’m not only tense, but dense. Could you please reply to me?

]]> By: henry http://www.amiracleaday.com/articles/2008/01/16/how-to-reach-your-potential-break-down-your-walls/#comment-153 henry Mon, 22 Mar 2010 22:33:57 +0000 I hope you cited the album "the wall" by Pink Floyd, because what you have just described is the premise of the album I hope you cited the album “the wall” by Pink Floyd, because what you have just described is the premise of the album

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