Comments on: How To Deal With Jealousy In A Relationship http://www.amiracleaday.com/articles/2007/12/11/how-to-deal-with-jealousy-in-a-relationship/ Helping To Find Everyday Miracles Tue, 07 Feb 2012 10:23:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jason http://www.amiracleaday.com/articles/2007/12/11/how-to-deal-with-jealousy-in-a-relationship/#comment-939 Jason Sun, 13 Feb 2011 15:32:53 +0000 Have you looked at the way you look at yourself recently? If you haven't, you should. Most of the time if you are jealous when you shouldn't be (which I'm assuming is the case here... if you have a reason to be jealous based on his behavior, you didn't mention it), it has to do with being critical of yourself, a feeling that you aren't good enough or don't deserve your significant other. This may be not good enough as in looks, or you think you just aren't a good enough person, or simply feeling that you aren't good enough in general, and that he will find someone better. Mostly this is because we are far, FAR more critial of ourselves than we are of anyone else... at least part of which is because we know our own mental failings, not just our own actions (i.e. we know that we almost didn't do something because we were scared, but with anyone else, we just know that they did do it... we don't associate that "almost didn't do it" with them like we do ourselves). The only real way to get better, in this case, is to take the quiet time needed to just learn to accept and become comfortable with ourselves, to understand that our value is not based on our looks, or our intelligence, or any of those generally used external measurements. We are who we choose to be... it's that simple. We are also loved, when we are truly loved, for WHO we are, not WHAT we are. My wife is beautiful, and intelligent, but that isn't why I love her... I love her because of who she is. If your boyfriend loves you, he loves you for who you are, not what you are, and therefor you have no need to be jealous... because all of those other girls aren't you. If you can accept that in your heart, it's very likely to even make him love you more. One last thing... make sure you remember to show him that you love him. Show him that you are happy to see him when you see him... appreciate being with him, and be in the moment, not worrying who else he might have talked to earlier. There is little, if anything, better than knowing that someone you love loves you back and is truly happy to be with you. Have you looked at the way you look at yourself recently? If you haven’t, you should. Most of the time if you are jealous when you shouldn’t be (which I’m assuming is the case here… if you have a reason to be jealous based on his behavior, you didn’t mention it), it has to do with being critical of yourself, a feeling that you aren’t good enough or don’t deserve your significant other. This may be not good enough as in looks, or you think you just aren’t a good enough person, or simply feeling that you aren’t good enough in general, and that he will find someone better.

Mostly this is because we are far, FAR more critial of ourselves than we are of anyone else… at least part of which is because we know our own mental failings, not just our own actions (i.e. we know that we almost didn’t do something because we were scared, but with anyone else, we just know that they did do it… we don’t associate that “almost didn’t do it” with them like we do ourselves). The only real way to get better, in this case, is to take the quiet time needed to just learn to accept and become comfortable with ourselves, to understand that our value is not based on our looks, or our intelligence, or any of those generally used external measurements.

We are who we choose to be… it’s that simple. We are also loved, when we are truly loved, for WHO we are, not WHAT we are. My wife is beautiful, and intelligent, but that isn’t why I love her… I love her because of who she is. If your boyfriend loves you, he loves you for who you are, not what you are, and therefor you have no need to be jealous… because all of those other girls aren’t you. If you can accept that in your heart, it’s very likely to even make him love you more.

One last thing… make sure you remember to show him that you love him. Show him that you are happy to see him when you see him… appreciate being with him, and be in the moment, not worrying who else he might have talked to earlier. There is little, if anything, better than knowing that someone you love loves you back and is truly happy to be with you.

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.amiracleaday.com/articles/2007/12/11/how-to-deal-with-jealousy-in-a-relationship/#comment-938 Jennifer Sat, 12 Feb 2011 07:46:13 +0000 I just definitely like my own partner sooo much plus he is indeed , perfect for me. I love just about everything close to him. The only problem though, is he is friends with so many young women and I don't like realizing that he has been talking to several ladies as a substitute for myself. I hate being jealous. I'm trying to just ignore the jealousy but I can't. Please help me out. Thanks. I just definitely like my own partner sooo much plus he is indeed , perfect for me. I love just about everything close to him. The only problem though, is he is friends with so many young women and I don’t like realizing that he has been talking to several ladies as a substitute for myself. I hate being jealous. I’m trying to just ignore the jealousy but I can’t. Please help me out. Thanks.

]]> By: Lisandra http://www.amiracleaday.com/articles/2007/12/11/how-to-deal-with-jealousy-in-a-relationship/#comment-937 Lisandra Sat, 12 Feb 2011 07:44:58 +0000 I actually completely love my boyfriend sooo much and furthermore he is actually fantastic for me. I appreciate pretty much everything around him. The only problem though, is he is friends with so many women and I don't like knowing that he could be speaking with lots of girls instead of myself. I hate being jealous. I'm trying to just ignore the jealousy but I can't. Please help me out. Thanks. I actually completely love my boyfriend sooo much and furthermore he is actually fantastic for me. I appreciate pretty much everything around him. The only problem though, is he is friends with so many women and I don’t like knowing that he could be speaking with lots of girls instead of myself. I hate being jealous. I’m trying to just ignore the jealousy but I can’t. Please help me out. Thanks.

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