Editor’s note – This is a guest post from Leanne Royer. If you have any questions, her email is at the bottom.
Hi, how’s it going?Do you feel like your dates are kind of boring and you are doing the same old thing? Going out to dinner and a movie?
Are you ready to take your relationship to the next level? Do you want to add some excitement back into your relationship?
I have some good news for you. Help is here at last! I am going to give you some tips that will help YOU “spice” up your love life and add some enjoyment to your life.
Relax And Have Fun
I personally love to go on dates. There is just something about the time “away” from life allows you to relax and forget those emails, the phone ringing (turn that cell phone off) and to just get away from people (maybe the children) demanding this and that of me.
Don’t Be Lazy
It is easy for me, and I suppose you as well, to let your relationship with your sweetheart get a bit “stale.” We are busy people. After all who has time for an hour or two to just focus on the two of us?
Tell Them You Love Them
We know we love each other and are here for each other. Correct? I for one am a woman who needs to be told AT LEAST once a day that I am loved. My husband, well he doesn’t NEED to be told as often. So he says. I tell him anyway.
Taking time out for each other strengthens our relationship and makes us happier, more content, and better able to handle the stress of life. There is plenty to stress about. When we do make (notice I said make) the time to spend together we give the children the realization that everything is going to be okay because dad and mom are connected. They are watching us. We also know that we are on the same page, working together to build trust,
stability, and confidence.
Kind Of Date
Guess Where We’re Going – One of my favorite dates to go on is “guess where we are going.” It is fun to surprise my mate and to keep him guessing just where we are going. Usually I leave it up to him to plan the date or we do it together.
Out Of The Ordinary – Sometimes out of the ordinary is the most exciting. If it is an overnight get away I pack his bag for him and hide it in the car, then I pick him up at work. It adds mystery and anticipation to the evening ahead. It is fun being the one in the know as well as the one doing the guessing.
It doesn’t have to be over night. Just a couple of hours, or even half an hour. I’m pretty sure your sweetheart won’t forget this date for a long time!
I have looked around a restaurant while waiting for my food (yes, on one of my dates) and I can usually pick out the married couples. It isn’t just because they have children with them or because they are on the phone, although those are good indicators.
What To Look For
The married couples eat their food and look around at others or out the window. Unmarried couples do a lot of talking and looking into each other’s eyes. Interesting, huh? I guess we married people have run out of topics to discuss. That is why we especially have to liven up our date nights and be a little more creative.
Working Out Your Differences
Did you know that 50% of marriages fail? Wow! That tells me that I need to work harder at giving to my sweetheart. Make him feel special. After all, why wouldn’t I try my hardest to impress the person closest to me?
The Meaning Of Love
Here is what love means to me: It is being willing to give when I don’t feel like it, listening (even though I know I’m right), respecting my husband, and doing whatever it takes (within reason) to make him happy. – Ed. Note: Figure out what it means to you, and what it means to the other person, and you’ve got a head start on a great relationship.
We all know that life is not perfect, and neither are our relationships. Some people give up and run away when things get tough. We also know that doesn’t fix anything, and often times makes things worse.
The one thing that most couples dream about (at least in the beginning) is a love that will last a lifetime. I know I have learned more about who I am since I’ve been married. The good, as well as the bad, has come out.
Work It Out
Working out the problem areas in my marriage has strengthened our relationship and can give us the life together we always dreamed of. You can have the same thing too, if you are willing to give a little extra of your time.
I have a quote hanging on my wall and it goes like this: “Life is a journey, not a destination.” When you look at it like that, let’s go have some fun! Make some lasting memories! Get out the candles, turn out the lights! Tell your sweetheart what you appreciate about them today!
What Are YOU Going To Do
So now it is up to you. How creative and fun do you want your relationship to be? I am working on a project, and can keep giving you tips and ideas as we go along. To do this I need your feedback. So please send me an
email to DatingForReal@Aweber.com and let me know what you think.
There is no risk just fun and GREAT relationships to be had.
Ed. Note – How did you like this guest post? Please let both the author and me know in the comments.